
As much as we’d like to think otherwise, most of the decisions we make are on autopilot. In the brain’s drive for efficiency, most of our behavior becomes automatic. Someone smiles at us, we smile back. Someone yells at us in traffic, we are ready to do battle. Most of the stupid decisions we make.. read more →

by Wendy Palmer Patterson, LCSW, LMFT Underneath all of our defenses, reactivities, and unconscious impulses is the reality of basic needs – met and unmet. When we understand that we all have basic needs and that some of them have been well met and others not, it makes it much more possible to have compassion.. read more →
Do You See Patterns? By Wendy Palmer Patterson Do you see patterns? Do you see your patterns? Do you see how helpful they were once upon a time? Do you see the patterns that are no longer helpful? Do you see the patterns that have become your enemy?? All of us develop habits and patterns.. read more →